Dear Dish-It,
My BFF started spreading rumors about me. She told everyone I was dating my crush on my bus, which is a lie. Then, out of nowhere, she accused me of being a lying mad at her because she's constantly trying to blackmail me?
friends4life
Dear friends4life,
Iām sorry to hear that you and your BFF arenāt getting along right now. However, I donāt think getting mad back at her, nothing will be solved or accomplished. Doing to her what sheās doing to you, or behaving the same way she is behaving wonāt make you two best friends again.
I think you need to consider a few things before you decide what to do. From what youāve said, it doesnāt really sound like this girl is a very good friend to you. Friends donāt start rumors about each other, and friends donāt call each other names. Ask yourself: Is this a person you really want or need in your life?
If the answer is yes, then I think the only thing to do is to talk to your friend. But you canāt confront her when youāre rumors about you and calling you names ā and you have to make sure you really mean it, and arenāt just saying it. You canāt be friends with someone while youāre holding a grudge against them. It just wonāt work.
If, on the other hand, the answer is no, then you simply move on. It may be sad to lose someone who used to be a really good and close friend, but know that you are moving on from a relationship that is potentially toxic and damaging to you. In time you will meet and make a new BFF ā someone who really cares about you and treats you the way a best friend should.
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